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Google "Tonic Masculinity."

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Apr 3·edited Apr 3

"Thus, men’s emotional development becomes an unwelcome burden that women are increasingly refusing to take on."

This doesn't make sense to me. Aren't partners/spouses supposed to provide emotional support to each other? Otherwise, what's the point of marriage, or even coupling? And without emotional interdependence, how are couples supposed to be together all their lives raising kids? Instead of continuously going round the carousel until they get too tired (or drop dead)?

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I think a lot of it has to do with men not wanting to do anything that could make them perceived as "gay" or "weak": https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/relationships/bosom-buddies-a-photo-history-of-male-affection/

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Yes. I have sat in many men's circles where we did talk about our lives. It has been awhile. I miss it.

Many men don't expect much of themselves either, having internalized a lot of the harshest feminist principles. We as men need other men to become our best self.

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